Today I wanted to tackle some of the harder questions recently engaged couples might have to ask themselves when they start to plan their marriage. Some areas can be a bit daunting to tackle, whether of family members or you simply don’t understand you ought to be talking about them. Never fear! That is what we’re here to get you asking these difficult questions and direct you early on to prevent any stressful circumstances or regrets cropping up after! Let’s crack on! Cash is not fun to discuss, especially in English culture, but for a whole lot of you planning your wedding, you will be blessed to be getting a kind contribution from family towards the wedding planning budget. This itself is fantastic and it is so wonderful to have people that want to assist you to have your fantasy wedding, but do have the conversation on if there are any conditions to that money. Are they buying requirements or an opinion in your wedding, if it be guests they would like you to invite, customs they would like you to maintain or any range of items you are not keen about but feel obliged to do since they are paying for some of YOUR moment. Possessing a very honest dialogue and if there are circumstances, think hard on in the event that you are willing to meet those conditions, if not I’d strongly advise turning it down as otherwise it will cause stress and arguments down the road, which nobody desires! It is tough but I guarantee it’s going to be worth it.
Are you pursuing traditions because you want to or feel obliged? This continues on from the first stage, but less centred around money, every civilization has its own customs and many couples want to incorporate these traditions into their daily life, but they are not for everyone! Should you choose against particular traditions that is absolutely fine, there is no strict rule book on what you can and can’t do, if don’t want to get married in a church, that is fine! , you don’t want a first dance or cake, no problem! You can do whatever you enjoy! But do be ready for push from certain people who will be surprised and will try and talk you into them, but if these traditions aren’t for you, stick with your guns and dismiss the peer pressuredo what you want, after all, it’s your special day.
Invite who you want! Says it all , only invite the people you would like to see in your wedding day or wedding weekend. The time goes soo fast, especially the wedding day itself and you want to make the most of that time by celebrating with the people you enjoy, No! Don’t do it! If you don’t find them in your daily life, don’t spend a fortune to have them at your wedding!
Do you have to compromise on something? For many, planning a wedding is a completely new experience, with lots of not understanding what goes into the preparation or how much things cost, particularly if you are thinking about a destination wedding. When we talk to couples we often see a dissonance between what they tell us they are after, their budget and their Pinterest board. It’s then our job to walk through the procedure of aligning these elements into a transparent vision for your own wedding, which can be budget-friendly. If you do not have a planner, you will quickly figure this out after the quotes begin coming back, it’s then a case of sitting down and figuring out what is most important to you, do you want that 5-course meal? Or free-flowing Bollinger? Is that merry-go-round an important part of your day? It’s definitely not an enjoyable task, but the earlier you align what you want with your budget the happier you will be!