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How Brides Handled “Hating” Their Engagement Ring

It is recommended that most brides are a dream come true. Your favorite man or woman will kneel down and ask you to spend the rest of your life with you. But when you open the ring box, and you see that you are not excited? It does happen. Here are six brides how to deal with “hating” their engagement rings.

“My husband and I were high school sweethearts. We reconnected online while he was deployed in Afghanistan ten years after we broke up. He had this feeling we would marry some day, so he actually waited for me all that time. (I know – way too romantic!) In high school when we got the feeling we would one day marry, I loved anything to do with hearts. So when he did propose he got me a diamond shaped as a heart. Problem was by then I was completely over the heart phase. But I didn’t care because I was marrying the man of my dreams. We’ve been married a decade. He knows I don’t like the ring but I would never replace it. We just tease each other about it and carry on. Someday, I’ll pass it down to the kids and they can keep the funny story going.” —Beth

“When he gave me the ring my heart sank. I’m insanely in love with the guy and was thrilled to get the proposal. I stressed to him how much I wanted to share my life with him and also how much I appreciated the time and effort he had taken to select the ring. But I said, ‘How would you feel if I was part of the process of ring selection and that way we are starting out making all the decisions mutually?’ He knew me and said, ‘Hon, good thing there’s an exchange policy at the jewelry store. Let’s go shopping!’” —Amy

“Tim is a minimalist so the ring he got was a simple solitaire tiffany style with a good diamond. It wasn’t what I wanted but wearing a ring I wasn’t crazy about seemed a small price to pay to be with the man I adore. Happily, 15 years later I now adore the ring – because of the love and commitment it symbolizes.” —Carla

“I do not like the shape of the diamond, the last thing I want to do is hurt Dave’s feelings so I decided to use you-catch-more-flies-with-honey-than-vinegar theory put forward this topic, I love, love, love the ring, but it feels like diamond setting is not fair.It seems like an emerald cut will be more beautiful.He went shopping with us for different diamonds.” —Tami

“The ring was an heirloom that Tom’s late grandmother had worn. I just didn’t have it in me to protest but after five years of marriage I still don’t like it. Happily I love the wedding band – which I had input in choosing – and that helps a lot!” —Lyn

“I waited a few weeks to hope I did not like the ring would fade.It did not.Therefore I asked my fiance to let him choose this particular ring.He said he had been suffering for hours in the ring choice.When he saw this one I wore a ring for the moment – at our wedding, holding our baby, and he was in bed – flashed before his eyes.He just felt it had to be our ring.It was such a full I love the story of love. —Jill